Friendly with exes or not?

[lorri]

i agree with you but she is besotted   im trying to train her otherwise lol

 

[nightowl17]

why would anyone stay friendly with a ex?

[oldspice]

My exes are too long ago! However, one of them is a close friend of my older sister and I see him about once every five years. I was 19 and had known him since I was six years old. He was 32. I was on the re-bound from a three year 'first love' relationship and he imagined himself in love with me.

After we split he married, then divorced. I saw him last Christmas. he's now 60 years old!!!! My kids thought it was really funny that I used to go out with out "old man".

[goldencup]

I already answered this in another thread but I'm friendly with lots of my exes and they're all from a really long time ago.  My junior school boyfriend and I email regularly after I spotted him on television and got in touch.   

[chocolate chick]

I haven't really had a lot of ex's. But 'my first love' broke my heart.
We was together 2 years, from the age of 16 to 18. He cheated on me and
I was heartbroken. He said he wanted to stay friends and I agreed
because I didn't want to let him go and thought he would come back to
me. But you guessed it, he even did. So I spent about a year not dating
anyone else, waiting for him. I realised this was not good for me.



He is now totally out of my life, I am engaged to my lovely man and have never been happier.



So in my case, no, it's not a good idea to stay friends with an ex.

[Nikkers]

Aaw Chocolate chick! glad u found happiness with someone nice! I was with someone for a year when I was sixteen and was completely heartbroken when he dumped me! I've been single since...and I'm now 22!!

[kevvosa]

I am not friendly with my ex. I think once you have split up, that's
it, time to move on. I suppose it depends on what terms you split up
on. If it's a case of cheating, arguing etc then dont keep in contact.



But if you mutually agree to end it because you've grown apart, then maybe it will work.

[Hello Sweetie]

I'm friends with my ex husband, we met at 16, got
married at 19 and divorced 13 years later. It was
pretty unpleasant at the time but we have two
daughters so we were never going to lose contact
and we get on well now. I'm great friends with the
first boyfriend I had after my divorce - I read at his
wedding to the girl he was two-timing me with and I
regularly go and stay with them. I'm also still good
friends with the boyfriend I had after him. My current
boyfriend does find this a bit weird....

[nightowl17]

My exes ring me up all the time cos they all want to get back with me now that I am a size 8. Shame they all dumped me when I was a size 18.

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[nightowl17]

I have an eating disorder where I stick my fingers down my throat and vomit after meals.

[smurfboy]

My friend is best friends with his ex-wife. If you think that sounds remarkable, they split up because he came out as gay!

Proof it can work out eh? And look at Annie Lennox and Dave Stewart - or George Hamilton and Alana Stewart!

[lemoneye]

In my experience, staying friends with "proper" exes is impossible. Staying friends with people you have had brief "flings" with is easier - but if there has been any long term or deep commitment or trust broken etc then its too hard

[loulou]

I fully agree with lemoneye.

[Nikkers]

this is all getting a bit Jerry Springer