So can I. I once had a boyfriend who thought he could cure my arachnophobia by throwing a large spider at me. He was so wrong......
Definately not the way to go about dealing with a phobia, leaving someone to "Deal" with a situation is best, forcing someone in to the situation is not.
If you read up on the facts about spiders, you will soon see how the few that are dangerous live in other parts of the world and what lives in our homes and garages and sheds are the good guys.
To splat them because your scared is IMHO utter ignorance.