Sure, don't stop making an effort but if you relax in a relationship,
that's a good thing too. You know, keep having baths, keep
washing your hair, still wear nice clothes, for yourself as well as the
partner. But it isn't my fault if this society is becoming more image
conscious because some people are shallow. What kind of a way is
that to live your life? I'm not going to become more shallow to fit
into all these stereotypes and being worried I am going to lose my man.
If my man went off with someone who was a size 8 because he thought a
size 12 was letting myself go, he isn't actually worht anything. I'm
talking about falling in love with someone and being by their side as
you grow older, and loving that change, it's still the same person.
This is a whole new topic isn't it?
I have a friend who has been persecuted all her life because she is a
very thin person. People sl*g her off and go on about how we should
fight against this 'everyone should be thin' model. So the
discrimination goes both ways. In fact it is all becoming very
confusing. All models, singers, actresses are all a certain way, thin,
toned etc. So there is a backlash of people saying curvier women are
real women. But what about naturally thin people? We might not think
about it but they can have a hard time too. People are all different
sizes, we all can change our appearance. But living your life to
conform to a certain way or that you are worried about losing your man
is such a sad way to live. Where is the acceptance of yourself?